In this series we’ve explored different ways to set personal boundaries. As critical as setting boundaries may be, it’s what happens after we set them that determines their usefulness. Maintaining personal boundaries is a life-long process. There are two ways we can approach this process. These two ways are best…

How tiny pains can lead to real suffering — Let me to begin by introducing you to the concept of the Zen Bag. The Zen Bag only tolerates the ideal. The ideal tooth brush, sunglasses, notebook, pen and so on. It’s a collection of essential objects, but it also represents a personal exploration into defining what is essential. A…

On boundaries: IV There are few things more fun for me than exploring the Big questions. What’s the meaning of life? What is Right? What is Wrong? What happens hereafter? That said, it’s not what I want to talk about right when I roll out of bed. For some reason…

On Boundaries: Part 3 (Part 1) (Part 2) — We all have needs. It could be the need for connection, belonging, validation, acknowledgment, safety, certainty…the list goes on. When it comes to our relationships, one of the only ways we can get our needs met is to express them. The problem is that many of us choose not to…

On Boundaries: Part II — In my last article in this series, I explored how personal boundaries are the lines that border our inner garden, the place where we cultivate our thoughts, emotions, dreams, beliefs, values, even our identity. In that article, I demonstrated how we can leverage our pain as a tool to locate…

On Boundaries: Part 1 The Inner Garden In our hyper connected world, the distance from one mind to another narrows in every moment. The boundaries separating us steadily fall away, giving rise to the age of hyper-reactivity. The more reactive we become, the less we’re able to understand each other. What if this…

Automatic vs Intentional Behavior Change “Make a delicious bowl of tea, lay the charcoal so that it heats the water; arrange the flowers as they are in the field; in summer suggest coolness; in winter, warmth; do everything ahead of time; prepare for rain; and give those with whom you…

Tis the season to be jolly, to give thanks, to count our blessings, and be grateful. It’s something we’re told often “you should be grateful.” The implication being, that we’re not grateful. What we’re not told is: how. How do we become grateful? More importantly, why should we become grateful…

When the usual systems failed me, my ADHD led me to create something new — I haven’t spoken much about my experience with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), and recently I’ve been asking myself why. After all, without my ADHD, I wouldn’t have come up with the Bullet Journal Method. Maybe the best way is to tell my story is for me to describe what…